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Family Minister’s Message: Administration or Ministry? Part 1

Gossip travels faster than facts.

During the conversations on voting to call me as a settled minister at my church, a couple of members said they heard that I planned to give only 4 hours a week to my role as manager of office staff and general administration.    They expressed skepticism that this was enough time.   So do I!

I’m not sure where this came from–not from me.   I don’t keep a time sheet for my 45-65 hours a week.  Moreover, my work is not divisible into rigidly separate categories like ministry, business, finances, fund raising, scholarship, reflection, listening, training, coaching, writing, analyzing…. But I am quite busy and invested in the ministry of administration!

Since the unexpected departure of our former administrator in early June,  I’ve been working several hours a week on matters that touch on administration, including staff recruitment, consultation, supervision and support.  I came back early from a July vacation to help staff regroup and to lead the search for a temporary, 3/4 time consulting administrator.

Clergy colleagues was a Master of Divinity are prone to complain about the many things we find in our jobs that “they didn’t teach us in seminary.”   Sure, but I also have an Master of Business Administration in finance and accounting, and there are plenty of things “they didn’t teach us in business school.”   Ministry is one of the few non-specialist positions remaining.  It’s generalist aspects are why this work appeals to me.

Over 16 years in ministry I’ve learned the most about management from patient coaching by folks from the corporate world, not-for-profit sector, and church leadership.   In 10 years as a budget analyst, bond analyst, and social services administrator in the State of Illinois, I learned a lot from supervisors, colleagues, visionaries, vendors, and the consumers of our services.

Who and what are some of the people and places that you credit with giving you the skills and knowledge that have made you better at what you do?  Comments below, please!



Moving from “Hired” to “Called” — Other UU Churches on the Road

In case you are not local, you may not have heard that the congregation met and voted last Sunday, April Fool’s Day, to call me as associate minister.  The vote was 199 to 4 (98%, on paper ballots, and I didn’t vote).  The quorum was more than our minimum and more than our usual:  53% of our members cast ballots.  Board Secretary Meg said it was the largest turnout ever.  She’s too young to remember very far back, but I’ll take it!

I’ve been here since 2008, hired on a yearly contract.  Our lead minister has been urging me to think about this since I started year 2, and last spring I told him I was ready to move forward with a process.  He brought it up to the Board in summer, and the Board appointed a task force.  Several meetings, forums, a review of my experience, an interview with me, more forums later, and the board voted to recommend a congregational vote.

Usually the “hire to call” process is more intentional from the beginning, and usually the decision is made by the end of year 2.  (Then they usually promote the “assistant” minister to “associate” minister.  I have been “family minister,” which was already in the associate category with regard to compensation standards.)

This church and I have known each other nearly 4 years and we’ve come to the point where we know enough to turn this common-law marriage into a legal one.  Many thanks!                             Other larger UU churches that are looking at the hire-to-call procedure have just hired some wonderful new young ministers, both of whom I know and love.  Take a look by clicking the city name:

Charlotte, NC:  Page 1 and 10 of the newsletter.

Appleton, WI:  Click on the assistant minister link on their front page.



What Is the “Hunger Banquet”?– Sunday, April 29, at UUSS

The Hunger Banquet is a consciousness-raising and fund-raising event designed by Oxfam.   Many churches have hosted one, and soon our Senior High Youth Group will host it:  Sunday evening, April 29.  They are selling tickets after the 9:30 AM service the next two Sundays.  Donations for the tickets begin at only $2 per ticket.  You may give more.  The youth and some parents have been soliciting donations from local merchants for the meal.

The way this “Banquet” works– you arrive and are given a seat at a table.  The food served and the proportions of it will reflect the distribution of food among the population of the world.  Hence, some of us will have a very nice meal at a very properly set dinner table– but only a small percentage of us.  Most of us will have a modest amount of food, perhaps rice and maybe some vegetable protein.  This experience gives us a visual and tangible sense of the inequities in food distribution and access.  It gives us food for thought, as we watch others enjoying a great meal while we get just enough to eat.  It may make us self-conscious if we are at the nice table and most of our friends and fellow diners are sitting nearby with a bowl of rice.

I’m sure there will be lively conversation and fellowship–not just a tense or boring meal.  Come to think of it, in the cultures around the world in all times of history, it’s been the fellowship that has made a meal, more than the food.  Come explore this!

Send me a COMMENT or an email if you can’t come on Sunday but would like to buy a ticket or make a donation to our youth group’s event.

Read more about the concept from OXFAM at this link.



Who Supervises Whom on Church Staff?

Members of the congregation voted to call me as their settled associate minister on April Fool’s Day.  Who was more foolish?  Not sure yet!  The board secretary said the 53% quorum of voters in person and by proxy was unprecedented.   The vote (on paper ballots) was 98% in favor of the call (199 yes to 4 no, and I didn’t vote).  I accepted this call, of course!

My role as manager of church staff and the main link to daily administration does not change by this vote.  I’ve been doing that since last June.  Thanks to the work of two 3/4 time consulting administrators, we have a new administrative structure.  This is a pilot project, to see if we can provide better service, more staff coverage, and a culture of customer and member service with more specialized staff roles.

Here is the current breakdown of staff and supervision roles.

It’s easy to forget, as we’ve had a lot of changes in the past year.

I supervise the Religious Education Assistant (16 hours/week position), Bookkeeper (30 hours/week), and Congregational Support Coordinator (CSC, 30 hours/week).  The CSC in turn supervises the Receptionist (full time) and our new Facilities Coordinator (FC, 20 hours/week).  Since late July we’ve been well served by a 3/4 time business administrator consultant; the current one will depart soon, with our deep thanks.  We also draw on the services of an IT consultant, one of the best values in that field.

The FC supervises three custodians and a maintenance technician.   The Lead Minister, along with relationships with lay officers, worship leaders, capital campaign and long range plan leaders, supervises the music staff, a  membership consultant and me.

In a later post I will talk about the division of my time here–and the non-divisibility of my time.

I will try to answer the question:

How much of my time at work is “ministry” and how much is “administration”?

(It’s all ministry!)



Weekly Message–excerpt–3/30/12

 

Stewardship Pledge  Campaign Update—many more folks have mailed in their 2012-13 pledge forms or brought them to Sunday service.  As of today UUSS has received 240 pledges totaling $394,400.  Thank you so much!

Our Bookkeeper says we still have about 120 outstanding. And the red “thermometer” shows we have over $100,000 to go to fully fund all the goals and commitments we’d like to.  Every pledge makes a difference!

You may pick up a yellow form this Sunday to make a pledge, contact Michele Ebler to ask her to fill out a form for you or mail one, or you may download one at this link.

Every pledge received in the next few days will enable our Treasurer to present a more accurate and optimistic budget to the Executive Committee of the Board.  Every pledge is valued and appreciated, and we thank you.  Thank you for your support.

Easter! Easter!  What’s all this I hear about Easter?

On April 8, Religious Education takes place during the 9:30 AM service.  Doug will be preaching, the Starr Singers singing, and both Youth Groups hiding Easter eggs (for Room 11 kids) and canned goods (for Spirit Play kids) to find and turn in for treats.

To prepare for the annual canned food Easter hunt, Religious Education Committee and Senior High Youth Group are now accepting canned food donations. Your canned food donations can be dropped off at the Religious Education table on your way into this Sunday’s service. Thank you!

 

Games Night—Friday, April 20Folks of all ages gather again for a potluck supper and board games.  Families, singles, couples, from toddlers to elders.  Show up at 5:30, we eat at 6 PM.  Play till 8 PM.

 

Summer Camp for UUs in Grade School– Children headed into first through fifth grades are invited to spend the week of August 6 – 10 at UUSS’s summer day camp with camp director Mary Howard and camp counselors from our senior high youth group.  A child’s week at Chalice Camp will include art, drama, water play, games, and more fun.  It will deepen each child’s understanding and expression of Unitarian Universalism.  To learn more or sign your child up, visit the Religious Education page on the UUSS website or contact camp director Mary Howard or camp registrar Carrie Cornwell .



SERMON from 3/25/12–Roller-Coaster Ride on Sierra Blvd: Our Congregation’s History—the Last 50 Years

 

Part 2 of a 2-part series given at the

Unitarian Universalist Society

Sacramento, CA

Shared Offering:  To Children’s Receiving Home

Moment of Silence:  In memory of Trayvon Martin, in sympathy with his family, and in solidarity with all who work and long for justice, peace and equity.

Hymns:  51, Lady of the Seasons’ Laughter; 361, Enter, Rejoice, and Come In; 360, Here We Have Gathered.    Vocal music: Across the Great Divide by Kate Wolfe, sung by Tom Hiltunen

Conversation with All Ages

I have an exercise for you.  Think about how long you have been in this congregation.  As you are able, please stand or raise your hand, as I ask these questions.  If you’ve been at UUSS at least 50 years, please rise.   Please remain standing.  If you’ve been here 40 years or more, please rise.  30 years or more.  20 years or more.  10 years or more.  5 years or more.  3 or 4 years; that includes me so I should stand.  If you’ve been here 2 years, 1 year or less, or if you just walked in the doors, please rise.  Give yourselves a hand.

Sermon

Perhaps in the year 1959, when the members of this congregation bought this five acres, a former horse ranch, they thought they could create a haven from the world.  They couldn’t.  The struggles of the world entered their lives and this church.  The people of the church did not hide behind these hexagonal walls.  Our members gave leadership to the local community.  As a church, we engaged in the ups-and-downs of the nation.

Let’s remember how we got here.  The original Unitarian congregation in Sacramento was established in 1868 by 17 families.  (They had been drawn together by the preaching of a minister from San Jose came up here on horse and buggy every Sunday.)  Until 1915, we met in theaters and meeting halls downtown.  Then we moved to a cedar-shingled house at 27th Street between N and O Streets.  We constructed this building in 1960 as our fellowship hall.  A sanctuary was to be built later, over in the grove of oak trees.   Didn’t happen.

During this Baby Boom era, most churches were bursting at the seams.  In 1962 we had 500 adult members.  1963, 600.  1964, 700 adults, with “several hundred children.”   Rather than getting a second minister, our church leaders chose the idea of spinning off new congregations.

Across North America many smaller, lay-led UU fellowships sprang up in the 1950s and 60s, part of a growth strategy of the denomination.  In 1962, the new Central UU Church met in our old church building on 27th Street, as we had not sold it yet.  This ended in 1965.  Yet in that same year, the South Area UU Fellowship started meeting, in the very same building.  Our minister lent his presence and support.  Forty families launched this fellowship.  As listed on the Sacramento Bee’s “church page,” Sunday service topics included social and political issues and religious and moral values.  It lasted three years, till the building was sold.

In 1964, several other families from our church rented the Grange Hall in Fair Oaks, and started the North Area Fellowship.  Attendance that year was 46 adults and 26 children.  One member recalls having to be at committee meetings every night.  This routine led working parents to burnout.  In spite of their vitality and their efforts, the group eventually stopped meeting.  Many of them merged back into UUSS.

It was not until 1991 that a permanent second congregation was founded in Sacramento, with denominational help and much effort by local Unitarian Universalists.  The UU Community Church celebrated its 20th anniversary last year, with about 100 members and a full-time minister.   Members there are friends to many of us, and a few people attend both churches.  So far they have been a nomadic church, renting space south of downtown.[i]

Our minister from 1960 to 1970 was Ford Lewis. He nearly declined our search committee’s invitation to be the candidate, given the painful rifts in the congregation over the forced retirement of Ted Abell, our minister of the prior 15 years.   The church hadn’t known that Ted had a brain tumor, and he died five months after leaving us–right after we started using this building, which he had helped us to achieve.

Ford Lewis was born in 1914 to a Baptist family in the Ozarks–southern Illinois.  In the Depression, his family lost their farm to foreclosure.  At age 20, Ford stayed back to close down the farm, as the rest moved to Arkansas.   He couldn’t afford state university tuition in Arkansas, but a friend lured him to Salem College, in West Virginia.   The school’s president got him a job pruning apple trees in the college orchard, and Ford’s aunt lent him $50.  Later, back in Arkansas, Ford earned a graduate degree, interrupted by navy service in the Second World War.  He and Barbara Lewis came to us after he served as an associate minister at First Unitarian of Portland, Oregon.

Soon after his arrival, we had a capital campaign to start construction of the first rooms of the Religious Education building, to which we added more sections later.  Till all the rooms were built, we had double Sunday school sessions.  We used an old cottage left here by the former owners.  We put kids and teachers on the stage, in the kitchen, the alcoves, and a rented trailer.

Helen Bradfield led Sunday School for the next decade or so, with 33 volunteer teachers and a committee of 10.

Highlights:

A weekly Church School newsletter—The Juniortarian.

Festivals on Easter, Christmas, and United Nations Day.

A favorite course—The Church Across the Street—with field trips to other houses of worship.

Our senior high youth group was part of Liberal Religious Youth, attending regional and national UU conferences.

Boom times!  Yet “by the end of the 60s, attendance in our Church School was dropping rapidly.”  Our historian wrote:  “At the beginning of the decade, we thought we had many answers, but by the end we were not so sure” (108).

We had many discussion groups for adults as well as volunteer opportunities.  In 1961, congregation members founded Theater One, a group which continues producing community theater to this day.  Today, in fact:  a matinee at 2.

The local Planned Parenthood chapter started in our church.  In 1963, Helen Gardiner, the president of our Women’s Alliance, noted that poor women in Sacramento (among others) could not get information about birth control.  The church allowed her space for meetings of the Planned Parenthood steering committee, which included Evelyn Watters from UUSS.  Ford Lewis chaired the advisory committee.

In March of 1965, the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr., called on American clergy from all faiths to join a voting rights protest in Selma, Alabama.  Days earlier, a state trooper shot and killed Jimmie Lee Jackson, a black man, as he tried to protect his 70-year-old mother from a police beating.  On March 7,a nonviolent march from Selma to Montgomery had been turned back at a highway bridge by police with brutal force, giving the day the name of Bloody Sunday.  Our minister Ford Lewis went, among thousands of other clergy.

Three white northern UUs ministers went to dinner one evening in a black-owned restaurant in Selma.  After they left, they were attacked.  A white mob clubbed and kicked Orloff Miller, Clark Olsen, and James Reeb.  (An elder in our church told me that Ford Lewis had been invited to go to dinner but had declined in order to rest.)  Two days later, James Reeb died.  One of Sacramento’s short-lived UU spinoff churches was renamed in Reeb’s honor.

In 1969, the Black Power movement confronted the white privilege and power structure of our denomination as well as that of other mainline Protestant faiths.  The Unitarian Universalist Association’s General Assembly made a large funding commitment to African American organizations.  A year later, the UUA canceled this promise when a new UUA president found out the previous administration had mismanaged the finances and there was no money.  The wounds of this controversy have run deep and long among friends of all colors and commitments in our UU movement.[ii]

Another cause of turmoil for us in the 1960s and 70s was this country’s war in Viet Nam.    Either quietly or publicly, many ministers and churches—including this one—helped young men avoid the draft by filing for status as Conscientious Objectors or by moving to Canada.  Some churches gave more vocal and radical opposition to the war.  Sometimes the acrimony pitted friends against one another, even split congregations.  [I hope our church’s written history on this era can be filled in a bit more.]

In that era, the U. S. government spied not only on activist groups, but on churches, sending agents to infiltrate congregations.  Jack Mendelsohn, then minister of Arlington Street Church, our flagship church in Boston, has told a story of when a young man admitted having attended Jack’s church.  But his military service was coming to and end, he said.  He liked the church very much, and wanted to join it!   If there are any spies here today, please know you are as welcome to be here as anyone.  Just please remember to turn in your pledge card.

During the women’s movement in this country, lots of activist energy came from religious women.  Much of it took place within congregations, especially Unitarian Universalist ones and at the denominational level.  In 1977, delegates to our denomination’s General Assembly approved the Women and Religion Resolution.  A landmark for us.  This committed our denomination to eliminate sexism in governance documents and policies, UUA hiring, ministerial credentialing, and hymnbooks and worship materials. Women’s Alliances in this and other UU congregations included many activists, and sent money to the UU Women’s Federation.  Our Alliance began in 1898, hosting literary and artistic events, giving money to charities and the church.  It continues, with meetings the second Thursday morning of each month.

In 1971, Ted and Marguerite Webb and their family and came from Boston to Sacramento in 1971, when our search committee named him as the ministerial candidate.  Born in Maine, Ted grew up as a Universalist long before the merger with the Unitarians.  He served northeastern churches and in a UUA District office.  Ted served us here until 1983. When the Alliance opened membership to men, Ted was the first one to join.  He attends church now at age 94, as our Minister Emeritus.

Advancements during Ted’s ministry—the start of the Religious Services Committee.  It continues now, with a number of lay worship leaders.  The Public Forum —led by Mark Tool, Ben Franklin, Mike Weber, and other members.  Volunteer speakers came to address timely issues; admission fees helped the church budget.  The Forum continued until a few years ago.  The Servetus Club started then as an activity group for single adults.  In 1983, it had 100 members, many of them not from the congregation.  It continues now with monthly meetings.

In 1973 Anna Andrews became the director of both adult and children’s religious education, serving for five lively years.  The fee was 5 dollars per student (116).  These 18 banners of diverse religions and cultures of the world [around the top of our sanctuary] were created by artists and craftspersons in the congregation in 1982, near the conclusion of Ted’s ministry.

Ted shocked the church when he announced his resignation, after 12 good years.  Our church historian wrote that Ted he was burned out by the demands of serving this large church with no assistant, and by a stressful controversy involving a church staff member.

In a newsletter column Ted expressed his disappointments and joys.  He had wanted us to be more engaged in social action in the community and state, given that we are in the capital city.  Yet years later he did express joy at the work of the UU Legislative Ministry in California.  It was founded in 2001 by lay leaders at the UU Community Church.  Several of us here are donors or volunteers for the Legislative Ministry.

Ted also expressed regret that our financial giving was not as strong as it could be.  He said this kept us from pursuing our full potential and from paying better compensation to hardworking staff members.  Yet he was gratified by the sense of adventure, humor, and friendship which he felt among us, and by the commitment of our lay leaders.  The congregation celebrated Marguerite and Ted with an event at the River Mansion, a luncheon after a Sunday service and a generous monetary gift.

In the early 1970s, few women ministers were serving Unitarian Universalist congregations, and we had almost no openly gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender ministers.  In thirty years, this changed.  The 1980s and 1990s were a time of learning, struggle, frustration and growing openness.  By 2000, over half of our ministers were women.  The first woman to serve this church was Eileen Karpeles, who came here in 1989 as an interim minister.  From 1992 to 94, the Reverend Richelle Russell was assistant minister.  From 1997-99 the Reverend Shirley Rank served as pastoral care minister.  In the position in which I serve ,the Reverend Lyn Cox was here with you for three years.  Then the Reverend Connie Grant served here for two years.

In the early 1990s many UU congregations began a process of self-study and consciousness-raising in order to be more inclusive of lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender people and their families.   This work still takes place in our denomination.  It leads to certification as an official Welcoming Congregation in the UUA.   This church earned that recognition in 1996.[iii]

In 1990 we called as minister the Reverend Don Beaudreault.  He stayed only five years before pursuing a call to another church.  [To save time I’ve skipped a number of interim ministers in this history, but they are listed on the website.]

Our next settled minister was John Young.  A number of members remember his gifts of intellect, preaching and leading adult education classes.  Yet many experienced the relationship as antagonistic.  A mismatch, perhaps.  His tenure ended in six years with a negotiated resignation and severance payment.  No matter how generously such a departure is handled, nearly everyone feels bruised.  Healing takes work and a long time, but some folks do drift away from church.[iv]

In that year, 1997, I began a ministry in the Bay Area.  Later, at our UU district ministers’ meetings I met your interim ministers, Sidney Wilde and Dennis Daniel, a heterosexual married couple with twinkly eyes and storytellers’ enthusiasm.  In 2000 they told us that the Sacramento search committee had found a candidate, some guy named Douglas Kraft.[v]  Who?

One minister said, “Can he handle them?  Will they eat him up?”   During his week of candidating with you, Doug may have wondered that himself!  In reality, as he recalls, he did see a prickliness in the congregation.

Yet he also sensed love under the surface, a deeper caring.  He saw the commitment of the lay leaders to their congregation in good times and bad.  “These were not fair-weather friends,” he says.  Doug grew up as a UU in Houston, attended national youth conferences with many other kids who ended up as ministers, married a Quaker, and attended our seminary in Berkeley.  Over four decades he has interspersed parish ministry with work as head of a program for street kids, a pscyhotherapist, and computer graphics programmer.

Doug writes books, plays the guitar and writes songs.  This is too much talent, so I’ve had him abducted.  He won’t be coming back tonight after all.

Doug’s 12 years here have included, most notably, his aging.   Seriously, though:  you and he have established Ministry Circles, the Lay Ministry team, Worship Leader trainings, the Program Council, and two services on Sunday mornings.[vi]  Recent years have seen better financial transparency and balanced budgets, rather than draining bequest funds to cover deficits.  A few years back, our church’s Mission statement was reaffirmed, and we adopted a long range plan.

Last month the congregation approved the Building and Grounds Master Plan by a unanimous vote.  It’s on the back wall and our website if you’d like to see it.  During Doug’s time you’ve had four seminary interns.  The ministry position I hold has been funded continuously for the past nine years.

Doug and lay leaders remember the days of long, argumentative meetings.  The Board was a lightning rod for frustration and unkindness in the church.  In his 10th anniversary report a couple of years ago, Doug said that Board meetings are shorter now and more satisfying.  So are congregational meetings.  More people now are willing to stand for election and serve their congregation.

“The general mood is more optimistic and less prickly,” Doug writes. “We … enjoy one another more.”

Originally a church of city members, in the past half-century we’ve become a regional congregation.  Thank you to all of you who drive a distance to come here!

Our wider embrace has become not only geographical, but theological.

In the1980s and 90s, Unitarian Universalists across the continent started getting spiritual… again.[vii]  Rather than disavowing religion, a new generation of adults wanted to explore it.  Jewish UUs looked into their culture and spiritual roots.  Some of us began to visit the Bible—again or for the first time ever.  Unitarian Christians found inspiration from the radical teachings of Jesus.  Some of us took up Buddhist meditation, contemplative prayer, or yoga.

We turned back to Thoreau and Emerson and found nourishment in contemporary spiritual writers.  Pagans ritualized the turning of the seasons.  In 1995, the General Assembly added earth-based spiritual traditions to and official list of the sources of our living tradition.

None of this has been an easy transition in the UU movement.  A rationalistic humanism had held sway since the 1920s.  Many ministers and lay people had assumed humanism’s unending and exclusive dominance.   They had thought of a UU church as a refuge. It was an alternative to religion.  Now it has become a religious alternative.

Our embrace is larger now.  Our welcome is wider.  We are a home for seekers as well as skeptics.  Many of us identify as both seekers and skeptics!   Let’s remember, inclusiveness is not only a value, it is a practice.  Building community takes work, in good times and bad.  But it’s worth it.

Let us be grateful for this legacy, and …

Give thanks all those, named and unnamed, who have brought us to this moment…

Be joyful that we have the chance to build and pass forward a legacy of our own for this congregation.

Let us move into the future with an ever-wider embrace.  Let us move into the future with joy and hope. Amen.



[i] On April 22 they begin renting from Pioneer Congregational Church, in Midtown.

[ii] If you want to learn more about this controversy, Google UUA Black Empowerment Controversy.  The Wilderness Journey, a recent video shows people on all sides of the issue recalling those times.

[iii] LGBT people seeking a new church can find out which ones are Welcoming Congregations at the UUA website: http://www.uua.org/directory/congregations

[iv] While John was here, the church hired the Reverend Shirley Ranck as a second minister; she’s known as an author adult curricula on earth-based and feminist spiritual traditions.  As I understand it, she departed after two years here in the months after John’s resignation, not out of conflict but to a steep drop in funding.  If you can tell a more accurate history of recent years, please update our history!

[v] Our compiled history, In Good Times and Bad, goes through Ted Webb’s ministry, ending in 1983.  We have well-organized church archives covering the last 30 years, but we’re waiting for people to step forward to update our congregation’s history.   This means I can say only a little about the years at UUSS before Doug arrived.

[vi] The Program Council supports all the program activities and committees, which frees the Board to focus on finances, personnel, facilities, and long-range plans.

[vii] In 1868, our church was founded as a liberal Christian congregation, and it remained so for the first half century.  Starting in the 1920s, religious humanism grew to theological dominance here and in many Unitarian churches.  In 1960s and 70s, many UU churches reflected a religion dominated of social concern activism.




Call Me Foolish! Call Me Faithful! — Family Minister’s church newsletter column for April

Unigram newsletter April 2012


The big vote approaches!

A few days after you read this, UUSS members will cast their votes on the Board’s motion for the congregation to call me as a settled associate minister.       As I write this article two weeks earlier, half of our UUSS households have not filled out a pledge form for the coming budget year.   This makes me a bit nervous.

The two most precious things about churches with congregational governance is the right to choose their own clergy and the right to sustain and fund their own programs, with no outside interference or dependence on a hierarchy.  Of course, with rights come responsibilities.

Without financial support from all of our pledging friends as well as our members, UUSS would not be such a strong community, giving safe harbor, sharing our beacon of love and justice.   It matters!

If you are a member, I hope you show up and vote.  If somehow you missed the Membership Orientation courses and forgot to sign the book as an official member, consider joining UUSS after the vote.  Meanwhile, you can still give your feedback and ideas to the Board, ministers, and members regarding this vote and the other business of significance.

I look forward to the vote.  I find pleasure in the date of the occasion:  April Fool’s Day!

We’re not looking for a simple majority vote by a bare quorum.  We’re hoping for a 90% or more “Yes” vote by a large turnout of members.  However this may turn out—a strong affirmation of our ministry together or a surprise message that maybe we’re not so well matched for a longer commitment—I have faith in this congregation and your future.

As a reflection of your vitality, size, needs and vision, you have had a full-time second minister on staff continuously for nine years.

I have been honored to serve for four of those years.  I’ve grown personally and learned much from our lay leaders, adults, youth and children–not to mention our gifted, caring and compassionate lead minister.

Yes, I’m nervous about the pledge results and excited about Sunday’s vote.  But I have faith in this congregation’s ability to rally, step up, and move forward into the future.

With a firm foundation of our heritage, openness, creative lay leadership, mission, values and covenant, I know that the congregation will shape the future as it lives into it with joy and love.

Yours in service,


PS—If you haven’t turned in a 2012-13 pledge form yet, please contact the office.  Your commitment right now can be pivotal to the future of this thriving congregation.  Thank you!

 



“Safe Harbor” does not mean “Safe Bunker”: Doug’s great Stewardship Sermon for Celebration Sunday: “Resilience and Kindness”

Today we had one service, with nearly 300 in attendance.  Doug preached. Lonon gave a startling and moving testimony about his finding our church, ending with his thanks, and his encouragement to other newcomers that this is a good place.  I’ll try to post it soon.  Also today: the San Francisco/Oakland-based Sarah Bush Dance Project offered two liturgical dances.  We had a buffet sandwich/wrap lunch and two cakes afterward.   It was the day to turn in financial pledge cards for the next budget year.  Even before today began, we had received 74 pledges totaling $205,432!  The pledge forms that were brought up to the front and placed in a basket during our Celebration of Commitment ritual are yet to be tallied.  In any case, we are well on our way to the goal of $510,000.  It was a great day, and this is a great place to be.

Resilience and Kindness, by Doug

I start this morning with a few stories.

Story #1: A Meeting

I was standing in the back of the sanctuary greeting people after the service when I noticed Barbara Gardner standing in line. She was supposed to be opening the congregational meeting to vote on our 50 Year Building and Grounds Master Plan. What was she doing back here?

It looked like she was doing her best to look patient.

“What’s up?” I asked.

“Jeff forgot his computer,” she said. Jeff Gold is our architect. He was going to be presenting the Master Plan itself.

“He has his PowerPoint presentation, projector and computer case. But the computer isn’t in it. He uses a Mac laptop like yours. Can we use yours?”

“Of course,” I said handing her the keys to my office. “I’ll go check with him to see if he needs anything else.”

By the time Barbara returned with my computer we had figured out that we also needed an adapter to plug it into his projector. My adapter was at home and too far away.

Hmmm.

Anne Bandy had approached me for help a few weeks earlier. She was offering a vegetarian cooking class. To project recipes and information, she wanted to connect her Mac laptop to the church’s projector. I told her the kind of adapter she needed and she bought one. It would work for Jeff as well.

I set out to find her. The congregation had spread out through the auditorium, lounge, library, religious education wing, office, patio and grounds. She could be anywhere.

I saw Ginger Enrico. “Can you help me find Anne?” Ginger turned immediately to go look. Then she came back. “Why don’t we call her cell phone? It’ll be faster.”

“Great idea!” I said. Ginger fetched her cell phone as I looked up Anne’s number.

Anne was on her way to church. “No, I don’t have my adapter with me,” she said. “But I’m close to home. It’ll only take me a few minutes to get it.”

Barbara started the congregational meeting with background of the Master Planning process. As she finished, Anne slipped into the congregation with her adapter and computer. As Jeff began to talk, I connected my computer to his projector. By the time he needed PowerPoint, the equipment was working smoothly.

I don’t think the congregation ever realized there had been a problem.

Story #2: A Vigil

On Tuesday morning, September 11, 2001, the World Trade Centers disintegrated. It was probably the most successful attack on America since the bombing of Perl Harbor. The fact that we were struck by a handful of terrorists rather than a nation left us feeling particularly raw and vulnerable.

What did it mean? What was going on? What would happen next? The future was foggy. I’m sure you remember the mood.

So on Wednesday evening, September 12, we gathered in this room. We sang. We meditated. And we invited each other to speak. The only guideline was that we weren’t going to tell each other what we should think or feel or do: no advice. We were just going to speak from the heart about what we were thinking and feeling. We were just going to share.

We didn’t solve the problems of the world. We just shared our hearts, our confusions, our fears, our hopes. We leaned on one another.

And that made all the difference. We had one another and knew that together we’d get through.

Story #3: A Cult

I grew up in Unitarian churches. So I took for granted the worth and dignity of everyone, thinking for myself and discovering my own believes in my own experience. I had friends who grew up in more rigid religious environments.

The cult of the Moonies was big back then. My non-Unitarian friends were more resistant to the Moonies because they were so attached to the beliefs they’d been taught. But once they got in, they rarely got out.

My Unitarian friends were more open to the Moonies. In church we’d learned to be open to other ideas and ways of thinking. So my Unitarian friends were more likely to go into the Moonies. But none of them stayed. They were so used to trusting their own experience and thinking for themselves, that once they learned what the Moonies were really about, they decided it wasn’t for them. And they just left.

Story #4: A Divorce

I was standing in our parking lot a few years ago as a member of our congregation told me she was going through a divorce.

“Would you like to sit down and talk about it?” I asked.

She paused. “Thanks,” she said. “I think I’ll tell my Ministry Circle first. Then I’ll let you know.”

She called a few days later and said her Circle had been great. For the moment, she had the support she needed.

This didn’t surprise me – she had invested in them and they in her. So they were there for her.

Story #5: A Fan

Walking into the office the other day I ran into Ricardo – one of our custodians. He smiled and showed me a blue wire that was charred on one end.

Apparently one of the exhaust fans on this building had stopped. A new fan costs about $600. An electrician could replace it for a few hundred more.

But Ricardo knows something about these things. Before calling an electrician, he climbed up on the roof. He discovered a burnt relay, which is what he was showing me.

He drove to the hardware store and, for a few dollars, bought another.

The fan works fine now.

Resilience

What do these stories have in common?

For one thing, they’re all about community. We’re stronger together than separate.

In a Peanuts cartoon Lucy holds up her fingers and wiggles them before Charlie Brown. “See these fingers,” she says. “By themselves each is weak and puny. But put them all together …” and she forms a tight fist that touches his nose “… and they are a power to behold!”

Yet the strength of community comes from more than brute power – a power that’s quieter and more fluid. It comes from resilience. When we’re together we’re more resilient than when we’re alone.

I walked into an interview with the Korean Zen Master, Seung Sahn. Next to him was a carved wooden Buddha with a rounded bottom. It sat on a little board. One end of a piece of elastic was stapled to the rounded bottom and the other end was stapled to that board.

Seung Sahn whopped the Buddha with the back of his hand. The Buddha fell back and lay down. Then the elastic spring it back upright.

Seung Sahn said, “Zen is the rubber band. It won’t protect you from getting hit. Life is like that. But when you get knocked over, it pulls you back up.”

Similarly, community and our congregation are rubber bands that help us recover. They give us resilience.

Nothing will prevent things from occasionally going wrong in meetings (story #1). Our architect, Jeff Gold, is enormously competent. But we all have lapses. The presentation went smoothly because Jeff was part of a team and that team was part of this congregation and together we had more resources and resilience to recover from a lapse.

Nothing can prevent the violence of the world from touching us like on September 11 (story #2). Our vigils are sometimes protests against specific policies. And sometimes they are just ways of coming together when we feel discouraged. As we come together we find the resilience to come back to center and face the next day with more heart, suppleness and intelligence.

Nothing can protect our kids from getting into trouble, making bad decisions or getting caught in unhealthy groups like Moonies (story #3). But I know that our children and youth programs – classes, Spirit Play, Youth Groups, sexuality courses, coming of age program – help our young people develop resilience through confidence in their own abilities to work things out by their own values. Our children and youth are more resilient because they are part of our Unitarian Universalist tribe.

Nothing can prevent that our loved ones from dying or protect us from getting sick or injured or insure our relationships will never change (story #4). These leave holes in our lives. But when we come together for memorials or Ministry Circles or just connecting in our various groups or Sunday services, we become more resilient. We see that all of us have holes in our lives. Knowing we aren’t alone shows us a deeper wholeness that makes us more resilient.

Nothing will prevent relays from burning out or buildings from aging (story #5). The fan was repaired inexpensively because collectively our congregation and staff draw on more talent than to any one of us have alone.

Harbor

Part of the theme of our Pledge Drive this year is “safe harbor.”

Notice that it is not “safe bunker.” It’s not “perfect bomb shelter.” It’s not “a mighty fortress.” There is nothing that can shield us from the difficulties of the world. When our lives hurt, when we lose our job, when a loved one dies, when our confidence drains, it’s not necessarily because we’ve failed, sinned or done anything wrong. Stuff happens. Just ask Job.

The image of our stewardship drive is “safe harbor.” A harbor doesn’t stop the storm. The winds and rains come in. But the harbor does lessen the strength of the currents and the impact of the waves. It does give us a place to ride out the storms without being pulled to the bottom.

The bonds of community make us more buoyant. They give us resilience. They make it easier to heal, grow and thrive.

Beacon

The other half of our theme this year is a beacon of love and justice.

We don’t claim to be the sun that turns the night into day. We don’t claim to fix the world. We just want to play our part: to be a force for healing in the world. To shine a light into the darkness.

And what’s the nature of the light we shine?

I would suggest it is kindness.

Just look at our values statement. It is really a faith statement even though it says nothing about ideas or ideology: the nature of God, the universe, the after life, political preference, tax policies or the nature of the human soul.

It says we put faith in the goodness that can be found in anyone when we have enough openness and curiosity and love and courage. Our values statement says “we put our faith in the kindness.”

It’s a beacon of kindness, not a beacon of ideological purity. Ideologies start wars and motivate terrorists. Our beacon is about kindness, fairness, equality of opportunity, worth and dignity and the fact the we are all inextricably related to one another in the interdependent web.

Blind Spot

One of our weaknesses – a blind spot for religious liberals and progressives as well as pluralistic consciousness in general – is that we underestimate the power of a lighthouse. We value being out there taking care of the oppressed, the poor and the disenfranchised. We may forget to build our own resilience, to build our own community, to give bricks, mortar and power to our lighthouse, if you will.

It’s easier for us to take care of others than take care of ourselves. It’s all too easy for us to let our building get worn, our budget to get depleted, as we give to others.

Yet, I think we’re doing pretty well: recent repairs, new entryway, upgrades to the kitchen and library and lounge area. Our budget is getting stronger despite the recession.

We adopted the Master Plan without a dissenting vote. For a herd of Unitarian Universalist cats, that’s nothing less than a miracle. It says a lot about our trust in one another and the resilience that brings.

We have a stronger group of young adults than we’ve had in years. Our youth programs are large and feisty. We have lots of adult enrichment classes and groups. We have Ministry Circles, Men’s groups, book clubs, Family Promise. We serve meals at St. John’s shelter and Loaves and Fishes. We have a Palestinian Israeli study group, Lay Ministry, Friends in Deed, choir, vigils, family camp, games nights, and on and on. And we’re close to settling Roger here as our second minister.

Who is doing all this?

We have no sugar daddies. We can’t print our own money.

We have ourselves. And I’m glad for that. So take a look around. Go ahead, it’s okay. Don’t feel shy.

This is us –a good sampling of all of us. We together are the ones strengthening the harbor and powering the light. We are the ones creating the resilience and the kindness to shine into the world.

So this morning, we gather to celebrate all that we are – all that we’ve done – to pat ourselves on the back.

And in the process we consider our financial pledge to this congregation. For the tending of the harbor, for maintaining the lighthouse. For the sake of the kids, the elders and all the in-betweeners. For the sake of all we bring. For goodness, openness, curiosity, love and courage.

Pledging is an act of faith. It’s not blind faith. It’s faith born of experience. We trust one another. It’s faith that if we do what we can we’ll do well.

I know I’m one of the larger givers in the church. There are ministers who don’t pledge at all. They say they are employees and are not part of the congregation in the same way the members are. And there is something to be said for that point of view. But I value being a member of this congregation as well as one of your ministers. So I pledge as a member.

I want to thank all of you who help support all of us in so many ways. I trust that you give within your means – not more than you can afford and not less. I trust that you’ll take it to heart and pledge what you can. That’s all any of us would ever ask of each other. Know that every pledge helps.

So thank you. Thank you.

 

 



What you can expect at UUSS on Sunday, March 4

This is what to expect on Celebration Sunday, when we have one service at 10 AM.

Our Stewardship Campaign Team will all be dressed in their Sunday best!  (Maybe other volunteers will do so as well.)  The team will be here early to be ready for the light lunch and cake that will follow the 10:00 service.

As you arrive and head for the sanctuary, Jorge Jimenez and friends will greet you at the Pledge Table to give you an envelope with your personal 2012-13 Pledge Form and a letter informing you of the pledge you made last time.

Please come a bit early to the service to pick up your envelope (in alpha order by last name).  Hang onto it until the ritual!  Enjoy coffee before service.

Our Coffee Hospitality Team will have two coffee, tea and juice stations and will have the coffee hot and ready well before the service.

Members of the Sarah Bush Dance Project from San Francisco

will offer two liturgical dances (one before the kids leave).  Doug Kraft will offer a homily.  I’ll do something myself!

Later in the service, ushers and greeters will invite us to come forward during the ritual, row by row, to place our Pledge Forms in the large basket. (Those too new to be ready to pledge will be invited to participate by writing their answer to a question of spiritual depth on a form that will be inserted in the order of service.  We seek to be as inclusive as possible.)

The Ministers, Trustees, and Stewardship Team will kick off this pledging ritual.  During the ritual, we’ll be singing spirited and familiar songs.

Our youth groups are invited to stay for the whole service.  I hope you can make it.  If you are not part of UUSS and are just a loyal reader of Pastor Cranky’s blog, I hope you have your own safe harbor, and hope you have a community which together shares a beacon of love and justice to the larger world.  Namaste!

PS–Check out the Sarah Bush Dance Project if you have not seem them at UUSS before:  http://sarahbushdance.com/

or see some videos:  http://sarahbushdance.com/videos/



Another Great Stewardship Testimonial–UUSS–Sunday, Feb. 26, 2012

Next Sunday morning is Celebration Sunday, when members and pledging friends will make their pledges of support for the upcoming budget year at our congregation.   Each Sunday a member or friend has delivered a testimonial about their feelings about the congregation and their financial commitment to its ministries and programs, staff, upkeep and outreach.  I have posted all of them on the blog.  Here is the latest.

Hello and good morning,

My name is Jorge.  About 8 years ago I started to attend this congregation ever since my partner, Ron, introduced me to the idea of Unitarian Universalism.  I was born in a small town in western Panama and raised in strong catholic family environment.  If my Father could see me now in a pulpit, he would fall on his knees shouting …. “ES UN MILAGRO….it’s a miracle.”

 

Growing up, I was the perfect catholic boy attending mass every Sunday, going to the confessionary and along with it, its corresponding hale Maries and Our Heavenly Fathers as penance for my previous week of mischievous acts.  However, as I got older I started to get more curious about the natural world and wanted to learn more about Science.  Something within me started to question some of the beliefs that I was taught in Catechism. My parents could not understand why I was being so stubborn asking such questions and now I can only imagine what went thru their minds…a heretic son!  So surely, I started to drift away from the Church and ultimately walked away from all the mumbo-jumbo of incoherent ranting, homophobia among many others….the list is long!

 

Science ignited my mind and beliefs, and taught me to truly seek the truth and not just be a mindless automaton.  I have followed that career truly applying the Scientific Method into my life.

 

And yet, here I am as a “friend of UUSS” as friend of this congregation speaking out why I support this institution.

 

I enjoy the camaraderie of peers who charm, challenge and comfort me — I am not alone.  This congregation is indeed a SAFE HARBOR.

 

I am comfortable with the ongoing ceaseless ferment of ideas here.  I align with the important work of social justice and the path that this UU has carved into our noble history.

 

I want to help sustain this community, a community for the stranger who may come thru that door next week, who may be seeking what UUs can give.  And I hope, beyond my years on this planet, that such strangers will become like me, supporting this ongoing community.  This place is truly a BEACON OF LOVE and JUSTICE.

 

 

 




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